What it's like being married

It's been a month and not much has changed. I do have to say though, I am a lot more mellow being married. Before if Tim did something to annoy me, say not fill up the Brita or leave a trail of food around the house, that would REALLY annoy me. Now, I think, my dear god I have at least 50 more years of this, I guess I shouldn't let it bother me that much. I still get on Tim's case but I'm not as "passionate" about it as I used to be.

Wedding pictures are coming...this week. He's taking a bit long but what are you gonna do. He's from Hawaii. We'll let you all know when we get them.

Tim is busy working and I'm busy going on job interviews. I just got over the worst cold in my life so after a little on death's door hiatus I'm back at looking for work.

If any of you have the cold that I had (fever, chills, cough, sore throat, body ache, nausea, and feeling so crappy that you are praying to die) go to the doctor's! On day five of the fever I think I was so delirious that I was imagining falling down the stairs to break my neck because my damn throat was so sore. I of course I never went to the doctor's but then I suffered like an idiot for over a week and mulled over assisted suicide.

Why oh why didn't I go to the doctor's you ask. First, I'm an idiot and I didn't have the energy to go and two, after all this "antibiotics are bad" and "it's creating super bugs" I thought I would get through it naturally...with over-the-counter drugs. I must say, after having a fever for five days I was beginning to worry but being the stubborn person that I am I toughed it out and after the sixth day the fever ended. I then had the worst sore throat and a cough that sounded like all of my inside were being up chucked, but no more fever.

I still have the cough, but it's not as bad as it used to be. Amazingly Tim did not get the cold. I can no longer tease him about being the weaker of the two of us and having a compromised immune system. Fifty more years.

It's a Done Deal - We're Married!

We're back in San Francisco and we're married! Thank you for all the well wishes from everyone.

We were lucky enough to have no rain the whole time we were at Haiku Gardens (wedding site, pix to the right). It had rained earlier and I was really concerned about everyone walking down to the chapel but the weather held up for us. The grass all around us was soaked and there were puddles everywhere so I just had to be careful with my white dress and 3 1/2-inch heals. Actually the heals probably helped with the puddles.

Being the tita that I am, I was walking around pidgin toed with my dress hiked up to my knees to save the dress from getting in the puddles.

Tita (tih tah) n. Definition: an attitude or way of life where a local woman acts very rough or masculine. Pidgin is her first language.

Used In A Sentence: She shtay full on tita yeah?

In English?: She sure isn't like us is she?

We had a nice simple ceremony that probably lasted all of 15 minutes. Quick and simple. Actually it could have been longer it could have been shorter I just kind of didn't notice anything but Tim and our wedding officiate Gay at the end of the aisle. I'm just glad Tim's sister, Chris, took pictures of the chapel and wedding ceremony because I don't remember a thing about what it looked like in there. I get so focused that everything else just fades away.

The wedding was small like we wanted. There were just twenty of us with four children. Tim's parents, sister and brother in-law, my mom and her husband, my dad and his wife, my two brothers and their family, my two grandmas, and three of my girlfriends.

Even with that small group my mom, who ended up doing most of the planning, was freaking out. It got to the point where she just wanted to bypass me and plan the wedding with my girlfriend Lara who is a true girl. If it were up to me there wouldn't have been any flowers and favors and if it were up to Tim our cake would have been from Costco. But my mom made sure we had a really beautiful wedding and so we had flowers, favors and a big old cake...not from Costco.

A lot of you have been asking about my name. After a lot of discussion, I'm taking Tim's name and also sort of keeping my last name by moving it to one of my middle names. I gotta somehow keep that Japanese identity.

Thanks again for all the well wishes and Happy New Year!